Surviving the Hard Days of Mothering

We've all had them. Those days that just wear you down and make you question what it is you are actually doing or if you are really making a difference.

The hard days of mothering come for us all.

No matter how many kids you have, how old they are, if you birthed them or adopted them, there is no partiality here.

It may have started in the middle of the night or took a turn after lunch.

It may be a continuation of yesterday which was a continuation of the day before and so on.

If we can agree that we all have hard days, what then do we do about it? I've got some practical tips as well as a couple of truths to soak in.

First, know that you aren't the only one facing hard days.

I believe it's just a part of this journey. We all have hard times. Sometimes it's us that's going through a hard time. Sometimes it's our child. Sometimes it might be both. Maybe it's just a stressful time in your family right now.

No matter why you are facing hard days, know that you aren't alone. Nothing is wrong with you because you are having a hard mothering day (or season).

Second, do something to take care of you.

I'm not talking about binging Netflix or mindlessly scrolling Instagram. Those are more self-comforting tasks, not self-care. Do something that is going to make you feel a little better.

Here are some self-care ideas:
  • Take a shower or simply wash your face
  • Drink a glass of water
  • Eat something good for you
  • Take a walk around the block
  • Call a friend
  • Take a nap
  • Do something productive to improve your external world (like start that load of laundry laying on the floor or wash the dishes in the sink)
  • Make a list of what you are grateful for
  • Write in a journal
  • Spend 2 minutes in silence and solitude

Thirdly, lower your standards for the rest of the day.

Maybe the kids get extra screen time today. Maybe they eat PB&J or cereal for dinner. Lower your standards for the rest of the day to take off some of the pressure you are feeling.

Lastly, rest in knowing that tomorrow is a new day.

You can start fresh. You can adjust your expectations. You can come at it from a different point of view. You have the power to change how you respond, no matter if tomorrow brings sunshine and roses or if you are still having a hard time.

Hard days come for us all. Sometimes they last longer than we'd like. But we can get through them.

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